Dr. John Gottman is one of the most respected researcher of relationships. He has studied and researched couples for decades. His research has helped marriage counselors to figure out why couples fail and divorce, or recover and repair their marital problems.
Dr. Gottman is well known for his analysis of relationships and being able to predict relationship disaster. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling are the “four horsemen of the apocalypse” according to his extensive research. Intimacy, communication, connection and cherishing are what binds a couple and keeps them together over the long term. Watch the video to understand: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CbJPaQY_1dc&feature=related
Obviously, there is help and couples can change. Learning to cherish one another is the most important aspect of maintaining a long and healthy relationship. His newest book entitled: “What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal”, addresses doubts and worry about betrayal. With divorce, affairs and “friends with benefits” running rampant in our society, it is no surprise that worry over betrayal is a concern.